Have you ever stopped and thought for a moment about what you have been thinking about? Like seriously wonder, or is it a little bit hard to go there? Is this why we spend so much time with earphones on listening to one thing or another? When you realize the importance of your thoughts, you will be intentional about what you are thinking about, you will be careful about what you allow to occupy your mind and extremely deliberate about the kinds of thoughts you permit. You see, your thoughts shape who you are; King Solomon says “as a man thinks in his heart so is he” – Proverbs 23:7. Your thoughts also create your reality; your external circumstances are a result of your thoughts. It is important then to realize that it is not everything that you think about that you should really be thinking about. Some thoughts should not be allowed in our minds at all. You will need to intentionally learn to change your mind, which simply means to decide to think differently, to be different, and to act differently by changing your thoughts.
When you come to the realization that you are no longer content with the way things are in your life and decide to make changes, you are changing your mind. It starts with your thoughts. Change starts in the mind. “You are transformed, altered, improved or changed by the renewing of your mind” – Romans 12:2. You have heard that your legs can never take you where your mind has never been. In order to achieve something, you would first have to have thought about it, and have a vision of it so that you can set goals to work towards achieving it. You will have to have a changed mindset to achieve this. A changed mindset will bring optimism back into your life; this means being hopeful, cheerful, positive and upbeat is a result of a changed mindset and it will help you to learn to look on the brighter side of things. A changed mindset helps to live a joyful and fulfilled life.
There are many benefits to changing your mindset; one of which is developing an attitude of gratitude, which was one of the things I did that helped change not just my thoughts, but my life has become more satisfactory as a result. I did not start being grateful because things were okay or that I had anything tangible that I could point to and say I was thankful because I had that; it was really not because I had a good paying job, marriage, a car, a house, business, money, friends, you name it. No, it was not because of any of that. I decided to thank God for everything, even for doors that were shut on my face - and I know this sounds a little bit preposterous, but when I learned to do that I learned to trust God and to not always want to have my way. I learned to stop trying to force open such doors. I began to thank God for people who walk out of my life because I understand that their season in my life could be over. Or for delays sometimes even when I am in a hurry, or for not finding parking close to the entrance at the mall, I understand that I need to learn to be patient and understanding, knowing that God is in control and that He is truly the potter who does a great work in my life to change my character.
You begin to feel a lot cheerful when you start to have a little bit of gratitude. There is really a lot to be thankful for in life, if you look at your life and stop thinking about what is not good about it, and learn to be thankful for the good, you will find that there is a lot to be thankful for. You can start by being thankful that you are alive today. That you were able to wake up and you actually heard your alarm and switched it off yourself. Many people didn’t get the same opportunity. Be thankful that you have food even if you don’t like it or a job even if it is far and you don’t really like it, or a place to stay even if you don’t own it. Get yourself a journal and start writing these down and watch your list grow as your life improves along with your attitude and your health.
It has been proven that gratitude improves physical and psychological health. It reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. I read an article by Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., a leading expert on gratitude and professor of psychology at the University of California, who conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression.
So, if your thoughts have been running wild, and you find it a little bit hard to put them on a leash or give immediate notice to those that are not welcome to vacate your mind; and if an attitude of gratitude sounds very foreign to you and you need help doing all these and more for an improved and fulfilled life; then you and I should have a talk. Seriously, we should because I can help you, and a lot quicker than you imagine. We will work amazingly together. If you feel stuck and have no idea where to start and you feel like success is far off or feel confused by the many options. Let’s talk!
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